In fact, we all know how to become successful. To do this, you just do not whine and a lot, a lot of work. But this is a short way to victory, but there is also a long one, such as, for example, Dan Waldschmidt, an American business coach, marketer and author of the book “Be the best version of yourself.” Before becoming a guru of self-salvation, Waldschmidt went through a typical crisis of the 30th anniversary (only as a child prodigy, at 25 years old).
He had an excellent job, a beautiful wife and a smart son, money and a fashionable sports hobby, but the surrounding reality began to blur imperceptibly: Dan felt tired, life seemed meaningless and getting out of bed in the morning became more and more difficult. The wife, looking at the wrecked husband, was carried away by another person.
Alcohol did not help to forget. The adult man locked himself in his office and sobbed before each meeting.
He was on the verge of suicide when he suddenly realized that, as Ostap Bender said, saving the drowning is the work of the drowning themselves (we don’t know if the business guru has read this great book, but we hope so).
Dan pulled himself together and pulled him to the surface of life a moment before he finally went to the bottom. “Gazeta.Ru” offers to get acquainted with his most striking insights and recommendations - and remember that even if you do not become a supersuccessful person, you can always write a good book about how you became.
Make extreme efforts
1. Try not to blame anyone. Foolish people realize their worthlessness, so they are so irritable and eager to point out other people's mistakes. They try to arouse a sense of inferiority in others in the hope of diverting attention from their own depressing mediocrity. Never blame anyone for anything. This is a bad habit.
2. Do not waste your energy on what is not important. Not everything needs to be done, forgetting about the dream. If you are an employee, you must go to work a certain number of hours. You cannot change this. But you can reduce the time to watch TV, meetings and everything else that prevents you from achieving your goals. Replace entertainment with activities that propel you forward.
3. Do not allow yourself to be tormented by doubts. You live in order to succeed. Stop comparing current issues with the last 18 failures. They are all different. Yes, and you have changed. Remember: your whole life has been a training ground for you to catch luck by the tail right now. Why should you doubt it? Stop whining and start fighting.
4. Ask yourself: “What can I do better next time?” And do it next time. If within 10-20 years you constantly work on yourself, you will definitely become better. Another important step towards achievement is not to do some stupid thing. So learn from your mistakes and use these lessons.
5. Actively spend time doing what energizes you (for example, do sports at last!). Living in the moment means living to the limit. Psychological preparation is largely due to physical. So fight with someone in the ring or go jogging if the fight seems to you an excessively cruel sport. Exercise significantly improves the mental attitude.
6. Ask for forgiveness from yourself and others for your bad attitude. Do this once or twice, and you will very quickly get rid of the spleen. Starting to sincerely ask for forgiveness for the negative impact on others, you learn not to whine, but to win.
Push the limits of your possibilities
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7. Determine what fears hold you back. To expand the scope of your capabilities, you first need to realize what you are dealing with, what scares you, what you are afraid to admit. Success comes when you face your fears directly and acknowledge your weaknesses.
8. Force yourself to make extra efforts, even if it seems impossible. You may think that you are 100% dedicated, but this is hardly the case. Frankly, this does not happen. These are pure inventions. To make an extra effort is to take another necessary action. This is the pain that you are willing to endure until you get what you want.
9. Do not worry about what others will think. To listen to the opinions of others is the first reason for the defeat. Are you ready to sacrifice your future to please a foolish critic?
It’s ridiculous to be so preoccupied with what people think of us. Why not stop pretending to be magnificent, but just take it and become it?
10. Consciously choose difficult situations that may well turn out to be a failure. Anyone can become a winner when victory is easy. This is not a challenge. However, most of us do just that: we win if you don’t need to make a lot of effort. If you want to push the boundaries of your capabilities, you need to come to terms with the likelihood of failure. And take a lot of risks.
11. Question everything. If you find yourself in some circumstances, this does not mean that this is exactly how it should be. It only speaks of how things are now. To push boundaries is to see the situation as it is and to question it. Challenge reality. Believe that your will is stronger than circumstances.
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12. Get ready for the long journey. Keep yourself in good psychological, physical and financial shape. Contribute to your dream by thinking about the long-term consequences of your actions. Do not do not pass the test of time.
13. You may fall along the way, but always rise. Do not despair over failures. You may suffer, this happens. But the more often you fall, the faster you need to rise. Whatever the damage, you will survive. Even in the most unfavorable, unthinkable circumstances.
14. What matters is not what the next step will be; it is important to go forward. If you act correctly, just take the next step. Stopping doing the right thing before your actions give a result is like making a mistake.
15. Everyone involved in the race is as tired as you are. If you're still struggling, look around: people feel the same way. They are not any easier. Yes, and you are no more difficult than them. Just recognize the pain and decide that the desire for success is stronger than the desire to avoid pain.
Plan your success
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16. Plan to work even more than you can imagine. You do not have to move to Kenya to sweat under the hot sun, preparing to break the world record, but you may have to spend dozens of sleepless nights until you reach the finish line. You need to plan your way. Success and measured life are incompatible. To succeed, extreme efforts are needed, not a regular 40-hour work week. You need to plan to work more than you can imagine, and then redouble your efforts.
17. The plan should not only be aimed at victory, it should be bold. It is necessary not only to work, hoping for success, but to plan to win. This is not about accidental success or luck.
Most of us live defensively: we work exactly as long as we need to pay bills and go on vacation every year.
We undertake work that enhances our ability to survive, but at the same time deprives us of a chance to live for real. Think big. Change the world. Harsh discipline begins with a plan.
18. Plan to work out of focus. You cannot plan a victory if you try to draw attention to yourself.
This difficult but very important lesson needs to be learned if you are going to achieve outstanding success. Looking impressive and making an impression is not the same thing. You can waste years creating the appearance of success. This is very distracting from the goal. Just be great and people will notice you. We promise.
19. Plan to suffer one or two defeats on the way to victory. This happens most often. If everything worked out the first time, ask yourself if your goal was ambitious enough.
You must be prepared for the fact that the first few, or even dozens of attempts will fail.
Learn valuable lessons from defeat and plan how to proceed further to the end.
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20. Look for positive aspects in every situation. It is difficult to be grateful, seeing only adversity and grief. Make yourself find happy moments in life - enjoyable, beautiful, and inspiring. Your brain will switch to gratitude mode and begin to notice all the good that is happening around. What you seek is what you find. Imagine how easy it is to be thankful when everything is wonderful around.
21. Record everything and re-read. Recording great events is a very effective way to develop generosity. You are as if documenting your experience. And what can motivate better than a reminder of the joy of previous victories? By recording all the positive aspects of life, you create a barrier between your fears and reality. Here, on paper, everything is written in black and white.
22. Stop fussing; slow down. In the confusion of days, most of us are so worried and annoyed that we rarely stop to see things as they are, to understand how good things really are.
Start to stop. While meditating, doing exercises, or just reading alone, calm your mind and let the beauty of life manifest.
23. More often say thank you. Gratitude practice is an effective way to rekindle a creative spark in yourself. Saying "thank you", you have a beneficial effect on your psychological state. Just say the word and your mood will improve. Teach yourself to give thanks and do it more often. This “easy drug” paves the way to great accomplishments.
24. Laugh at yourself. One of the reasons for our ingratitude is that we take life too seriously. Sometimes it’s enough to laugh at the circumstances to discover extraordinary prospects and new ways to achieve success. You can be angry as much as you like, but, realizing the absurdity of what is happening, you will be able to see new opportunities and take advantage of them.
Love more
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25. Be vulnerable. Put yourself in a position where it is possible to experience heartache. This is not easy, but one of the best ways that allows opportunities to find you. If you truly care about others and they feel your responsiveness, they will give you a helping hand and want to help you succeed.
26. Be honest. If you hurt others, offend them, it's easier to hide from the truth. But so you only lie to yourself. And lies and love are incompatible in one lifestyle.
To learn to love, you must be extremely honest with yourself about your limitations and growth potential.
27. Be single-minded. Consciously plan to influence the lives of others. Try your best to be generous and judicious. Do not wait for someone to stumble and fall to rush to his aid. Look around and actively encourage those who may be suffering in silence.
Content:Success is the ability to harmoniously adapt to all the various changing conditions of existence of an individual and society. The peaks of success overcame all weaknesses before achieving results. Not only men are successful, systematically working on their personality, anyone can come to it. The only way to lose is to quit everything or stop halfway. What steps should be taken first to become a successful woman?
1. Definiteness of purpose
For many, success means money, there is nothing reprehensible in it, a person with wealth cannot be called a failure. Regardless of what is meant by success, it is necessary not only to generalize, but to set a specific goal: what exactly do you expect to receive.
For some it is enough to find a job with a good salary, this is a specific goal. For a woman, marriage may be the goal; some tend to go abroad. These are also goals that are not achieved by themselves; they must be achieved by taking certain steps. Or, for example, to open a business, which will require not only money and useful contacts, but also internal changes, self-development and self-improvement.
Any specific goal that is fixed in the mind and is held in it with the desire to achieve, saturates the subconscious, until it begins to influence all actions and actions aimed at the final result. This is a feature of the human mind. If you not only think, but also perform certain actions, it is very difficult not to succeed.
2. Self Confidence
Fears inspire uncertainty; they prevent one from finding oneself in life and to achieve success for both women and men. Uncertainty comes after setting a goal and is expressed in such thoughts: “I can’t do it ... If I do this, what people will say ... What will happen if I can’t succeed?” To overcome fears and become successful, one must carry out the planned actions and move forward step by step.
It is useful to analyze the events of the day before going to bed, and after waking up, think about affairs for today. Do not be afraid what others will think, they have not set a goal and do not go to it day after day, but continue to quietly “save for old age”.
Feel the difference between self-confidence, backed by knowledge and the ability to apply it, and selfishness, based on self-conceit and illusions. Belief in oneself does not require proclamation; it manifests itself in reasonable acts.
3. Self-control
Having set a goal and gaining self-confidence, a person is filled with enthusiasm, commendable in building a plan for achieving success. Enthusiasm encourages action, while self-control is a flywheel that directs action in a constructive way. A successful person achieves a balance of enthusiasm and self-control. This is especially important for women who are more emotional and impulsive in nature.
Highly developed self-control does not allow one to be influenced by pessimism, does not allow others to decide for themselves. He will stimulate imagination and enthusiasm until they induce action, control actions, not allowing them to control themselves.
Those who have self-control will not slander or retaliate, will not hate a dissident, on the contrary, will try to understand the reason for their disagreement and benefit from it. A typical sign of a lack of self-control is the habit of talking a lot. An intelligent woman who knows how to succeed in life, carefully monitors her words and owns a competent speech.
4. Organized efforts
Success is the result of individual efforts, but it is achieved in collaboration with other people. From the moment of setting goals and gaining self-confidence, achieving success is a tactful influence of a person on others in order to achieve cooperation. For example, when looking for a well-paid job, you must impress the employer by inspiring him with your own mind and self-control that you are the person who is needed here.
Those who want to organize their business enjoy the support of other people who have achieved success, do not pass by the idea obtained from the experience and knowledge of others. A woman striving for a successful marriage, establishes relationships with the groom's relatives, tries to attract them to her side, to win love and trust.
5. Attractive personality
To win the favor of people who will help you succeed, you need to become an attractive person. And it is not only a matter of beauty. A personality is a combination of internal and external data that distinguishes a person from others: clothing, facial features, tone of voice, thought, character bearing an imprint of intelligence.
The most important part of the personality is represented by character and is not visible in appearance. The style of clothing and its relevance are very important, the first impression is usually made on the basis of external data. Even a handshake is an important detail on which the interlocutor's perception depends. When shaking hands, the palms should be dry, take care of this in advance.
An expression of the eye and a smile will tell a lot about the potential assistant, there are people who are so penetrating that they can look into the soul through the eyes and read hidden thoughts. A win-win option is openness and sincere interest in the interlocutor.
Possessing self-control and being an attractive personality, having achieved an understanding of what should be done to approach the set goal and taking planned actions, you will certainly achieve the desired result. And if you think more not about how to get, but about what needs to be done, then achieving success in life will be much easier.
Have you ever noticed how many people, without realizing it, want to be robots ??? They are waiting for their success sitting on the neck of others. Yes, everything attracts them, from the reluctance to think, to the guilt of other people.
“They didn’t show me the way”, or “they didn’t give me a step-by-step system” - this happens quite often.
Let’s talk today about how to achieve success ... not even, let’s talk about to whom and how does success come? Go…
You know, when I was just starting my own, I didn’t understand much. Not even that — I knew nothing about business at all. How to open a company, where to pay taxes, how to look for employees, and even more than three million different questions that I decided on my own.
But the most interesting thing is not happening here, and today I do not want to tell you how I solved all these issues. No, the point is completely different ...
Understand this feature - you will never know the whole theory anyway. There are a lot of theories: necessary, unnecessary, needed yesterday or tomorrow, etc. But only practice can help you achieve results, only with the help of your practical actions you can become a truly successful person.
So, when I started doing business, it was as if they threw me into some kind of abyss and said: “ That's all ... now get out of here yourself». “ You decided to work for yourself - so work and solve your problems yourself.”
In general, your business is such a serious school of life, which tests how strong you are.
We can’t understand one thing. We are used to that wherever we go, they give us everything and everyone shows and tells us: what to take, where to communicate, how to work, where to go, who to go for.
Many become robots so much that they don’t even want to think with their own heads, they hope and know that as soon as they have a question, they can raise their hand and they will give us an answer.
Just like at school.
When many people decide to do business, they also think that someone will solve their problem, that someone can be blamed for failure. But, unfortunately, this is not so.
For your actions, for your actions you must - no - you must answer independently. Only you have built the life in which you live today, no one else.
I noticed that those people who asked me to tell and show how I build a business were divided into 2 types.
The first type is those who took and applied advice on their own, i.e. they had a specific question. I gave them my vision of how this should be realized, they caught the idea and applied this advice, adapting it for themselves.
And the second type is those who asked to do something in his place or with him. They absolutely did not want to think with their own heads. Their main task was to listen and copy to 100%, not adapt to anything and not think how much it could work for their idea, for their business.
And do you know which of them has achieved great success? It’s not even a big success, but who really works today, and I’m sure it will work tomorrow, and in ten or twenty years.
That's right, the first achieved great success, because they themselves went through all their experience, they received advice, but thought about them and worked through and passed through themselves, through their brains. They were no longer jobs or monkeys who, without thinking at all, were doing things.
They achieved success thanks to their actions, their brains, their experience, and every day they accumulated this experience and became even stronger. Think, do not become robots, and success will not be long in coming.
How to come to success? It is probably simple to act and not stop there.
With you,
- Igor Zuevich.
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There is no such thing as a secret to success. Do not waste your time looking for him. Success is the result of self-improvement, hard work, learning from failure and perseverance.
(Colin Powell)
At all times, in all ages, humanity grows and develops, the whole history is filled with a person’s desire for success. After all, it is precisely the desire to become successful is one of the root causes of human progress.
Man by nature is inclined to experience hunger, not only physical, but also spiritual. We need communication, recognition, respect, love, we need friends, comrades, close people.
Therefore, since ancient times, people have paid much attention to success. Many myths, fairy tales, the Bible, the Qur'an teach how to achieve success in life. Moreover, achievement of success was put at the forefront as an important condition for gaining happiness.
Let's ask ourselves the question: “Do I want to become a successful and prosperous person?” We think that the answer to this question will be positive.
Having studied the literature (2,5,6,8) devoted to this topic and faced with a wide variety of interpretations of the phrase “successful student”, we could not help but be interested in the question: who is he, this welcome guest named “Success”?
After talking with friends, we came to the conclusion that the guys do not know how to achieve their success and whether they need it. Therefore, we decided to conduct our research and answer the questions: What is success? What are the components of success? How to become a successful student?
The relevance of this topic is due to the fact that in modern society a person is required who is able to independently think creatively, to seek non-standard ways to solve problems that arise, and is able to quickly adapt to changes in society.
The object of research is the process of forming the personal qualities of a successful student.
Subject of research: image of a successful student.
The hypothesis of the study is the assumption that the student will be successful if:
Able to learn;
Takes the initiative;
Creatively developed;
Sociable;
Leads a healthy lifestyle.
The purpose of the study: to find out what success is and why it is needed.
1. To study the scientific literature on the research problem.
2. Give a definition of the concept of "success."
2. To determine the development factors of a successful and unsuccessful personality.
3. Identify the qualities of a successful person.
4. Draw up a personal development program “My Successes”.
5. Develop a memo for primary school students and their parents “How to become a successful student”
Research Methods:
1. Theoretical analysis of scientific literature.
2. Questioning.
4. Observation.
5. Analysis.
Key components of success
What is success?
The word "success" is of Russian origin. The word "Success", if you think about the meaning of its original meaning, is associated with the concept of "catch up."
“Successful” means successful, “successful” - doing everything on time, able to coordinate his plans and aspirations with the real coordinates of life time.
In the "Brief Explanatory Dictionary of the Russian Language" the word "successful" means:
"One that gives positive results ends in success."
According to N. I. Kozlov, “a successful person is a person who sets promising goals and knows how to competently achieve them.”
Nikushkin S. believes that “success is real living energy that a person possesses, with the help of which he attracts other people to himself”.
Sukhova S. defines “success” as “success in achieving something, public recognition, good results in work, in school.”
The word "success" can mean both a process - a period of luck, a "white streak", the achievement of any goals, and the result - goals achieved, public recognition.
In the dictionary of S. I. Ozhegov, the concept of "success" is interpreted as
"one. Public acceptance. 2. Good luck in achieving something. 3. Good results at work, in school. "
What word can be used as a synonym for success?
We consider the word “luck”. It is formed from the word “succeeds,” that is, it succeeds in doing something conceived. Luck is a constant companion of success. Without it, it is not impossible to achieve anything. A successful person is almost always a successful person.
Who is an educated person?
We believe that one of the main success factors is education. Education can be called the process of acquiring systematic knowledge and a specific way of thinking. The meaning of education is to learn how to use their abilities to achieve goals.
According to experts, the education received today is not acquired “for life”. In connection with rapidly developing technologies, knowledge is rapidly becoming obsolete and needs to be updated constantly. One way of updating existing knowledge and gaining new ones is self-education. Today, many people learn on their own and master a large amount of information.
Helps them in this ability to learn. This is the basic skill necessary for a person engaged in self-education. What is it manifested in?
In the ability to make decisions about their own learning process.
In the correct use of the basic techniques of mental activity.
In the proper organization of their own time, as well as the ability to plan to control their activities.
The ability to find the necessary information and choose the appropriate methods for its study.
In sociability: the ability to make acquaintances, plan communication with people of interest, collaborate.
The most important thing in this process: to attract external resources, to engage in self-education through various sources.
The main sources today are the following sources:
Books and media. Occupation for books: tutorials, textbooks, study guides, etc. p. - an ethoclassical way of self-education. Today, labor-free can find the necessary literature on a favorite topic. The media today is also quite a lot. However, they are heterogeneous in terms of quality. Therefore, it is necessary to be critical of published materials, especially new and unusual ones.
With the development of the global Internet, a new source for self-education has emerged: the ability to use electronic libraries and study materials from various sites. Self-education is also developing through the Internet.
Special educational computer programs.
Visiting theaters, reading conferences, exhibitions is another very useful and, most importantly, a very interesting source of self-education. Participation in such events will allow you to always be in touch with events, in time to learn about the new directions, ideas and developments that modern scientists and researchers are engaged in.
The surrounding reality. The events that take place around us, and the people with whom we meet and communicate, can enrich our knowledge no less, and sometimes even more, than other sources. The main thing is to be able to see and hear, and also understand that you can learn something from any person.
Hobbies of their hobby.
In the process of self-education, it is necessary to use all of the above sources. Only in this case will this process be effective.
Self-education gives undeniable advantages in the future, since it is similar to the work of the researcher and inventor. A person has to overcome the unknown, therefore, independence develops and independent thinking, persistence in overcoming the difficulties that arise. In addition, it has long been known that something is not digested as well as that obtained by one's own labor!
Sociability is the main means of achieving success
The first and main rule was formulated many centuries ago: "The most important person in the world is the one who is in front of you." How good you are as an interlocutor depends on success in relationships with people.
Sociability is one of the main personal qualities necessary for almost any person to achieve success.
Sociability is the ability of people to establish business contacts, communications, relationships.
A sociable person is a person who is pleasant in communication and easily makes contacts.
Domestic psychologists have identified a number of rules that we must follow in everyday contacts.
1. When talking, what excites your interlocutor should excite you. Be a good listener.
2. You do not need to be a hypocrite, but you can and must wean yourself from the habit of contradicting for any reason.
3. Do not offend that the interlocutor is expensive: people of his circle, his hobbies, ideals and values.
4. Do not argue. A dispute (in its traditional bickering form) is a meaningless and even harmful thing.
5. Avoid the monologue - dialogue is more productive.
6. Try to understand what the interlocutor wants to say, help him formulate his thoughts, even if you do not agree with him.
7. Look for what he is right in, and not wrong, try to agree, and not argue.
Attitude to failure
A. Konelsky believes that “the importance of the path to success is the attitude to failure. Any person has misses, problems and misfortunes. But the attitude to their own defeats can be different. Fear of failure is the biggest obstacle to success. It is the fear of losing, making a mistake that keeps us from trying to do those things that are necessary in order to come to victory. ”
An important feature of a successful person is a positive attitude towards life. Of course, this does not mean that he cannot have a bad mood. But such a person is not inclined to become depressed. You need to learn to believe in yourself and trust the world around you, as well as interact with family or friends from a position of respect and understanding.
It is very important to learn to perceive any problem as an opportunity for new solutions. “After all, a problem is such a situation when a person has a small choice. When there are two possible ways to solve the problem, an internal conflict arises. Only by finding three or more ways to overcome difficulties can one feel a sense of freedom. Three options are a minimum. Then begins an area of \u200b\u200bmore interesting ideas. ”
In an interview with Einstein they asked: “What do you think is the difference between you and other people?” The scientist replied: “If people are looking for a needle in a haystack, then the vast majority of them stop as soon as they find it. I act differently. I continue to search and soon find a second, third. And if I’m very persistent, I can find four and five. ”
It is imperative to develop your creative abilities.
Healthy lifestyle is the key to success in life
A healthy lifestyle (HLS) is life in accordance with the laws of nature and society, or life in accordance with biological and moral standards.
The main rule of healthy lifestyle is that nothing should interfere with the natural renewal of the body, and the lifestyle should correspond to its proper growth and development. For a more successful implementation of this rule, the terms of a healthy lifestyle come. These include optimal motor mode, personal hygiene, good nutrition, hardening, giving up bad habits.
The optimal motor regimen is regular physical education and sports and the correct distribution of rest.
Good nutrition is one of the conditions for preserving human life and health. It includes the correct ratio of food, the presence of vitamins, minerals, compliance with water balance.
Hardening is a system of measures that allows you to use the natural forces of nature (sun, air, water).
Refusal of bad habits is a necessary condition for a healthy lifestyle. Smoking, alcohol, drug addiction, substance abuse have a harmful effect on health, performance (4).
Personal hygiene includes the following: the correct alternation of mental and physical labor, adhering to the daily routine, body care, and keeping your home clean.
The regimen is the correct distribution of basic physiological needs during the day (sleep, wakefulness, food intake). The daily routine is a daily routine corresponding to age-specific features, providing for the automatism of life processes that is repeated day after day. The main task of the daily regimen is a reasonable alternation of mental and physical labor with rest, proper organization of sleep, nutrition, and wakefulness.
Student Success Criteria
In online publications, we have found many points of view on what determines a person’s success. And they came to the conclusion that some common qualities are inherent in people who have achieved much in life.
Based on the information received, we tried to identify the main criteria for student success:
1. The ability to learn.
2. Purposefulness.
3. Self-confidence (this quality is formed in childhood under the influence of parents and the immediate environment).
4. Independence and willingness to take responsibility, initiative (to succeed, it is not enough to be a good performer - you need to be able to be a creator)
5. Ability to think strategically (it is important to understand what consequences our actions may have, not only tomorrow, but also after a few years).
6. Attentive attitude to your health, maintaining a healthy lifestyle (excellent physical form helps maintain a sharp mind and freshness of perception).
7. The desire to expand their capabilities.
8. Creative approach (the ability to set creative tasks for yourself and other people and solve them).
9. Sociability (ability to communicate).
The famous sociologist and philosopher Abraham Maslow conducted a large study of the life of famous people and came to the following conclusions: successful people know how:
1. Effectively make decisions;
2. To be the best in any business, that is, to do everything with full dedication;
3. Listen to yourself, have an opinion;
4. Take responsibility for your actions;
5. Express their opinion, different from the majority opinion in public;
6. Establish and maintain long-term contacts with other people.
1. 7. What prevents a student from achieving success?
In his book, School without Losers, W. Glasser talks about the challenges unsuccessful students face.
The main problems, in his opinion, are:
1. Lack of warm, trusting relationships in the family and with teachers.
2. Lack of attachment to each other.
3. Humility with a lack of human relationships.
4. Humility with school failures.
5. The desire to live for today.
6. Lack of interest in opportunities to change your life.
7. Unwillingness to think about the future.
W. Glasser believes that if a child fails at the age of 5 to 10 years, by the age of ten, confidence disappears and the child gets used to failures. The conviction of inability to solve problems comes. The chances of success every year become less likely.
In our opinion, one of the main mistakes on the path to success is the loss of time. This mistake is the irrationality of the organization of your life.
It is especially important already at school age to learn how to manage your time, learn to plan it, streamlining your life and achieving self-improvement.
According to recent studies, only 30% of children do morning exercises at home, in 80% - the duration of night sleep is reduced by 1.5 - 2 hours. Almost all children spend from 1 to 3 hours daily on TV, up to 2 hours on computer screens, 20% of children do not walk at all after school. An improperly organized regime of the day leads to a sharp decrease in working capacity, fatigue and overwork.
A person’s relationship over time is an indicator of his success. Harmonious relationships over time mean 2 things: the ability to live in the present; ability to feel the continuity of the past, present and future.
Based on a generalization of literary sources, we came to the conclusion:
1. A successful person is a person who sets himself promising goals and knows how to competently achieve them.
2. One of the main success factors is education. The meaning of education is to learn how to use their abilities to achieve goals. The acquired knowledge needs to be updated constantly. One way of updating existing knowledge and gaining new ones is self-education.
3. Sociability is the main means of achieving success. Sociability is one of the main personal qualities necessary for almost any person to achieve success.
4. An important feature of a successful person is a positive attitude towards life. You need to learn to believe in yourself and trust the world around you, as well as interact with family or friends from a position of respect and understanding.
5. The lifestyle should correspond to the proper growth and development of the body. For a more successful implementation of this rule, the terms of a healthy lifestyle come. These include optimal motor mode, personal hygiene, good nutrition, hardening, giving up bad habits.
6. W. Glasser believes that if a child suffers failures between the ages of 5 and 10 years, by the age of ten, confidence disappears and the child gets used to failures. The conviction of inability to solve problems comes.
7. One of the main mistakes on the path to success is the loss of time. This mistake is the irrationality of the organization of your life.
Experimental work on creating the image of a successful student
Organization and research methods
In order to practically substantiate the conclusions obtained during the theoretical analysis of the problem under study, we conducted an experimental study. The study took place in 3 stages.
At stage I, research approaches were developed, tests were compiled.
At stage II, it was supposed to conduct testing in junior and senior grades.
At stage III, an analysis of the experimental material was carried out, a generalization was made.
The purpose of the study is to create a collective portrait of a successful student
Objectives of an experimental study:
1) to develop a research program;
2) conduct testing at the initial level and in high school;
3) analyze the experimental material and make generalizations.
In the research methodology, we adhered to the following provisions:
1. Respect for the unity of conditions in research.
2. Accessibility and clarity of tasks and requirements.
3. The ability to identify the maximum achievements of the student.
4. The expression of this account in digital terms (%).
The main base of our research was the secondary school No. 2 of the Energetik village, Novorossky District, Orenburg Region.
Age of children: 3rd grade - 9 years;
Grade 11 - 16-17 years old.
Survey results
We conducted testing with the guys of our 3 "A" class and in the 11th grade (see Appendix 3). Here is what he showed:
1. To the question "What is success?" We received the answer:
The following options were suggested by the children: “success” is a good study at school, many friends, the love of parents.
2. What determines success?
3. Do people need success?
Yes, because success gives an incentive to continue the work begun.
No, because continuous success can ruin a person, he will not strive for anything, knowing that he will succeed anyway.
4. Do you need success?
Yes, you need to be confident in your abilities, which is impossible without success.
No, because success always requires something, and I do not want to stand out from the rest.
5. The most important thing in life -
6. A successful student is a person who
7. A failure student is a person
8. What qualities should a student have in order to achieve good and excellent academic results (it was suggested to choose the 5-6 most significant):
conclusions
The practical part of the study gave us the opportunity to once again make sure that success is very important in the life of a child.
1. Success is the achievement of everything conceived; this is what helps a person to live.
2. Success depends on the right goal. Every person needs him.
3. The most important thing in life is to be healthy, find your way in life, become a real person, be happy, and get a good education.
4. A successful student is a person who studies well, is hardworking, has success in business.
5. A loser student is a person who does not study well, cannot do anything without the help of others, who have no friends.
6. A successful student must possess the following qualities:
Hard work
Perseverance
Conclusion
After analyzing a number of works on this issue, we learned that success is very important in human life. It is especially important in the first years of training. Many teachers believe that if a child suffers failures between the ages of 5 and 10 years, then by the age of ten, confidence disappears and the child gets used to failures. The conviction of inability to solve problems comes.
For many reasons, many children do not know what to do in order to succeed. It is necessary to help them find their goal. If the goal is large, you need to break it into several small tasks and perform them sequentially. It is important to constantly be tuned to success. It must be remembered that on the way there are failures and misfortunes. It is very important to learn to perceive any problem as an opportunity for new solutions.
It is especially important to learn how to manage your time and observe the daily routine even at school age. The main task of the daily regimen is a reasonable alternation of mental and physical labor with rest, proper organization of sleep, nutrition, and wakefulness.
The hardest part of achieving success is learning how to use the resources of your own “I”.
We came to the conclusion that a successful student is a child who knows how to set promising goals and who can competently achieve them.
Based on the test results, we found that a successful student should have the following qualities:
Hard work
Perseverance
Ability to plan your work and fulfill your plan
Believe in your abilities, increase self-esteem
Able to independently set goals in school.
The hypothesis put forward by us, we fully confirmed. Every child can become a successful student. But for this you need to work hard.
Test "Successful student"
1. A successful student is a person who
✓ studies well
✓ lucky, lucky,
✓ who succeeds,
✓ has success in business,
✓ hardworking
2. A failed student is a person
✓ who studies poorly,
✓ who has no friends,
✓ who is always unlucky,
✓ who cannot do anything without the help of others,
✓ who has nothing.
3. If a person does not have
✓ friends
✓ computer
✓ cars
✓ decisiveness,
✓ good upbringing, then it did not take place.
4. If a person has
✓ friends
✓ savvy,
✓ good parents,
✓ car
✓ computer
✓ has everything, then it took place.
5. The most important thing in life -
✓ be happy
✓ make friends
✓ be healthy,
✓ get a good education,
✓ much to do,
✓ do not lose heart,
✓ find your way, get comfortable,
✓ my mom
✓ become a real person,
✓ appreciate what surrounds you,
✓ do good deeds.
6. Do you think success is
✓ a long pursuit of a goal with a favorable outcome,
✓ achievement of everything conceived,
✓ what helps a person to live,
✓ luck + aspiration,
✓ successful outcome of events,
7. Do people need success?
✓ Yes, because success gives an incentive to continue the work begun
✓ No, because continuous success can ruin a person, he will not really strive for anything, knowing that he will succeed anyway.
8. Do you need success?
✓ Yes, because you need to be confident in your abilities, which is impossible without success.
✓ No, because success always obliges you to something, but I don’t want to stand out from the rest.
9. What determines success (choose one of the answer options or offer your own)?
✓ From luck.
✓ From a correctly set goal.
10. What qualities should a student have in order to achieve good and excellent results in school (choose 5-6 most significant)
✓ Disciplined
✓ Clever, quick-witted knows how to set goals for himself on his own
✓ Good memory
✓ Hardworking, assiduous
✓ Able to use someone else's work (notes, problem solving)
✓ Owns self-control
✓ Able to plan work and fulfill his plan
✓ Inquisitive, likes to study
✓ Always aiming for success
Memo to parents who want to help their child with learning activities
1. Recognize the right of the child to make a mistake. Remember, the one who does nothing is not mistaken.
2. Respect the views and attitudes of the child.
3. While doing homework, do not do tasks for him, but only help if necessary.
4. Make the child need to explain, prove his answer (solution)
5. Do not even jokingly speak disrespectfully about studying as an activity, about school, about teachers.
6. Emphasize that studying is the most difficult type of activity, but your child can do it. "Hard in learning, easy in battle."
7. Take the child’s problems as your own. Remember, in his life all experiences are real: both failures, and successes, and losses, etc.
8. Engage with your child in research activities, share with him the knowledge that you own.
9. Always be proud and rejoice in the success of the child.
10. Emphasize the child’s confidence in the prospect of success, as a result of his efforts and perseverance.
11. Create conditions for children to study: good nutrition, a sparing daily routine, good sleep, a relaxed living environment.
12. Provide your child with reference books, encyclopedias, dictionaries, etc.
13. Remember that assessment is not the main thing in a child’s life, the main thing is the acquired knowledge. Think about the future of your child.
14. Do not disregard the child’s free time, help make it useful and informative.
15. Create family traditions that will stimulate mental activity.
16. Love him no matter what he is doing.
Memo to a child who wants to succeed at school
1. Set a goal. Learn to make efforts to achieve your goal.
2. Be diligent in teaching. Remember that your current and future well-being depends a lot on the knowledge gained at school.
3. Try to learn something new every day, except what you learned in the classroom. Engage in self-education.
4. Remember, high-quality homework is the way to success in learning.
5. Take an active part in the public life of the class and school.
6. Learn to complete the work you have begun.
7. Go in for sports. Lead a healthy lifestyle.
8. Observe the daily routine.
9. Be confident.
10. Learn to communicate with other people.
11. Do not envy others.
12. Do not be afraid to express your ideas, thoughts.
13. Attend clubs and sports sections to reveal your abilities.
14. Remember, to succeed in life you need to work hard.
We studied the effective advice of the American business guru Dan Waldschmidt on how to become an outstanding person, and chose those that really lead to success.
In fact, we all know how to become successful. To do this, you just do not whine and work hard. But this is a short way to victory, but there is also a long one, such as, for example, Dan Waldschmidt, an American business coach, marketer and author of the book “Be the best version of yourself.” Before becoming a guru of self-salvation, Waldschmidt went through a typical crisis of the 30th anniversary (only as a child prodigy, at 25 years old).
He had an excellent job, a beautiful wife and a smart son, money and a fashionable sports hobby, but the surrounding reality began to blur imperceptibly: Dan felt tired, life seemed meaningless and getting out of bed in the morning became more and more difficult. The wife, looking at the wrecked husband, was carried away by another person.
Alcohol did not help to forget. The adult man locked himself in his office and sobbed before each meeting.
He was on the verge of suicide when he suddenly realized that, as Ostap Bender said, saving the drowning is the work of the drowning themselves (we don’t know if the business guru has read this great book, but we hope so).
Dan pulled himself together and pulled him to the surface of life a moment before he finally went to the bottom. “Gazeta.Ru” offers to get acquainted with his most striking insights and recommendations - and remember that even if you do not become a supersuccessful person, you can always write a good book about how you became.
Make extreme efforts
1. Try not to blame anyone. Foolish people realize their worthlessness, so they are so irritable and eager to point out other people's mistakes. They try to arouse a sense of inferiority in others in the hope of diverting attention from their own depressing mediocrity. Never blame anyone for anything. This is a bad habit.
2. Do not waste your energy on what is not important. Not everything needs to be done, forgetting about the dream. If you are an employee, you must go to work a certain number of hours. You cannot change this. But you can reduce the time to watch TV, meetings and everything else that prevents you from achieving your goals. Replace entertainment with activities that propel you forward.
3. Do not allow yourself to be tormented by doubts. You live in order to succeed. Stop comparing current issues with the last 18 failures. They are all different. Yes, and you have changed. Remember: your whole life has been a training ground for you to catch luck by the tail right now. Why should you doubt it? Stop whining and start fighting.
4. Ask yourself: “What can I do better next time?” And do it next time. If you constantly work on yourself over the course of 10–20 years, you will definitely become better. Another important step towards achievement is not to do some stupid thing. So learn from your mistakes and use these lessons.
5. Actively spend time doing what energizes you (for example, do sports at last!). To live in the moment means to live to the limit. Psychological preparation is largely due to physical. So fight with someone in the ring or go jogging if the fight seems to you an excessively cruel sport. Exercise significantly improves the mental attitude.
6. Ask for forgiveness from yourself and others for your bad attitude. Do this once or twice, and you will very quickly get rid of the spleen. Starting to sincerely ask for forgiveness for the negative impact on others, you learn not to whine, but to win.
Push the limits of your possibilities
7. Determine what fears hold you back. To expand the scope of your capabilities, you first need to realize what you are dealing with, what scares you, what you are afraid to admit. Success comes when you face your fears directly and acknowledge your weaknesses.
8. Force yourself to make extra efforts, even if it seems impossible. You may think that you are 100% dedicated, but this is hardly the case. Frankly, this does not happen. These are pure inventions. To make an extra effort is to take another necessary action. This is the pain that you are willing to endure until you get what you want.
9. Do not worry about what others will think. To listen to the opinions of others is the first reason for the defeat. Are you ready to sacrifice your future to please a foolish critic?
It’s ridiculous to be so preoccupied with what people think of us. Why not stop pretending to be magnificent, but just take it and become it?
10. Consciously choose difficult situations that may well turn out to be a failure. Anyone can become a winner when victory is easy. This is not a challenge. However, most of us do just that: we win if you don’t need to make a lot of effort. If you want to push the boundaries of your capabilities, you need to come to terms with the likelihood of failure. And take a lot of risks.
11. Question everything. If you find yourself in some circumstances, this does not mean that this is exactly how it should be. It only speaks of how things are now. To push boundaries is to see the situation as it is and to question it. Challenge reality. Believe that your will is stronger than circumstances.
Finish the race
12. Get ready for the long journey. Keep yourself in good psychological, physical and financial shape. Contribute to your dream by thinking about the long-term consequences of your actions. Do not do not pass the test of time.
13. You may fall along the way, but always rise. Do not despair over failures. You may suffer, this happens. But the more often you fall, the faster you need to rise. Whatever the damage, you will survive. Even in the most unfavorable, unthinkable circumstances.
14. What matters is not what the next step will be; it is important to go forward. If you act correctly, just take the next step. Stopping doing the right thing before your actions give a result is like making a mistake.
15. Everyone involved in the race is as tired as you are. If you're still struggling, look around: people feel the same way. They are not any easier. Yes, and you are no more difficult than them. Just recognize the pain and decide that the desire for success is stronger than the desire to avoid pain.
Plan your success
16. Plan to work even more than you can imagine. You do not have to move to Kenya to sweat under the hot sun, preparing to break the world record, but you may have to spend a dozen sleepless nights until you reach the finish line. You need to plan your way. Success and measured life are incompatible. To succeed, extreme efforts are needed, not a regular 40-hour work week. You need to plan to work more than you can imagine, and then redouble your efforts.
17. The plan should not only be aimed at victory, it should be bold. It is necessary not only to work, hoping for success, but to plan to win. This is not about accidental success or luck.
Most of us live defensively: we work exactly as long as we need to pay bills and go on vacation every year.
We undertake work that enhances our ability to survive, but at the same time deprives us of a chance to live for real. Think big. Change the world. Harsh discipline begins with a plan.
18. Plan to work out of focus. You cannot plan a victory if you try to draw attention to yourself. This difficult but very important lesson needs to be learned if you are going to achieve outstanding success. Looking impressive and making an impression is not the same thing. You can waste years creating the appearance of success. This is very distracting from the goal. Just be great and people will notice you. We promise.
19. Plan to suffer one or two defeats on the way to victory. This happens most often. If everything worked out the first time, ask yourself if your goal was ambitious enough.
You must be prepared for the fact that the first few, or even dozens of attempts will fail.
Learn valuable lessons from defeat and plan how to proceed further to the end.
Give thanks
20. Look for positive aspects in every situation. It is difficult to be grateful, seeing only adversity and grief. Make yourself find happy moments in life - enjoyable, beautiful, and inspiring. Your brain will switch to gratitude mode and begin to notice all the good that is happening around. What you seek is what you find. Imagine how easy it is to be thankful when everything is wonderful around.
21. Record everything and re-read. Recording great events is a very effective way to develop generosity. You are as if documenting your experience. And what can motivate better than a reminder of the joy of previous victories? By recording all the positive aspects of life, you create a barrier between your fears and reality. Here, on paper, everything is written in black and white.
22. Stop fussing; slow down. In the confusion of days, most of us are so worried and annoyed that we rarely stop to see things as they are, to understand how good things really are.
Start to stop. While meditating, doing exercises, or just reading alone, calm your mind and let the beauty of life manifest.
23. More often say thank you. Gratitude practice is an effective way to rekindle a creative spark in yourself. Saying "thank you", you have a beneficial effect on your psychological state. Just say the word and your mood will improve. Teach yourself to give thanks and do it more often. This “easy drug” paves the way to great accomplishments.
24. Laugh at yourself. One of the reasons for our ingratitude is that we take life too seriously. Sometimes it’s enough to laugh at the circumstances to discover extraordinary prospects and new ways to achieve success. You can be angry as much as you like, but, realizing the absurdity of what is happening, you will be able to see new opportunities and take advantage of them.
Love more
25. Be vulnerable. Put yourself in a position where it is possible to experience heartache. This is not easy, but one of the best ways that allows opportunities to find you. If you truly care about others and they feel your responsiveness, they will give you a helping hand and want to help you succeed.
26. Be honest. If you hurt others, offend them, it's easier to hide from the truth. But so you only lie to yourself. And lies and love are incompatible in one lifestyle.
To learn to love, you must be extremely honest with yourself about your limitations and growth potential.
27. Be single-minded. Consciously plan to influence the lives of others. Try your best to be generous and judicious. Do not wait for someone to stumble and fall to rush to his aid. Look around and actively encourage those who may be suffering in silence.
