Calm, only calm ... But how to stay calm if everything is bubbling inside, unspoken words, accumulated tension and threatens to spill over into the immediate environment? Familiar situation? But everyone wants to remain self-confident, calm and controlling their own behavior - this is strength, this is self-satisfaction, this is the health of the body and strong nerves.
What to do to relieve stress and not feel like a barrel of gunpowder, for which there are many sparks? Let's take a look at some of the common guidelines and techniques that will provide a foundation for creating a calm, inner atmosphere.
Attitude for regularity and peace of mind
The first thing that comes to mind is relaxation, meditation and prayer for those in whose soul there is faith. Relaxing regular practice helps restore peace of mind and inner harmony in a short time. And here the main mistake occurs: a person who is satisfied with the result of the meditating methods stops his studies, and everything returns to normal. The same nervousness and the same anxiety in a matter of days pulls the soul and body into heavy chains.
Each person chooses a suitable relaxation method, performing a kind of ritual:
- believers read prayers, turning over the rosary;
- sports people run in winter on skis, and in summer along parks, sand or mountain paths;
- a walk before going to bed or meeting the dawn, talking with animals, growing crops, fishing or hunting;
- handicrafts, playing musical instruments, creativity;
- give an opportunity to feel, hear yourself, find a state of harmony in yourself and your place in the world around you.
The main rule: the method of relaxation is individual, and the habit of giving yourself a rest should be as daily as brushing your teeth or taking a walk with the dog - by the way, taking a walk with the dog is also an option.
What is the principle of calmness?
The balance of the soul, health and thoughts of a person is the basis of his calmness. Emotions that are not on this list are capable of shaking any "cold" head. However, this does not mean at all that you need to be a cracker or a rusty nail, in which not a shadow of a living is left - emotions of any sign, both positive and negative, decorate life, making it brighter, more interesting, more exciting. The question is, how expensive are emotions for a particular person: did you feel the situation and let go or does the fever continue for a day, two, a week? Thoughts in my head spin and spin, not allowing to think about anything else, insomnia and fatigue, increasing psychosis - these are the signs.
Keeping balance is not easy, but possible. We offer several rules on how not to succumb to the provocations of the surrounding world and remain true to yourself, while maintaining an inner source of confidence:
- Calm is not synonymous with sleepiness! Sleepiness is apathy and reluctance to act, which over time threatens to develop into and detachment from life's problems that have nothing to do with the inner harmony of a person.
- In a state of nervousness concentrate on the ability to see the situation or life picture as a whole, without detailing - this will allow you not to spray and not cycle on unpleasant little things that pull the balance over to yourself.
- Don't expect peace from the outside: the world around us is dynamic and does not stand still for a single second - it’s ridiculous to expect some kind of stability from it. Life presents various surprises: it is good if they turn out to be exciting, but pleasant, and if the surprise is not so good? They breathed in, breathed out and said to themselves: "I can handle it!" Of course you can! If only simply because circumstances sometimes do not give other options.
- A rule people know but don't use: look for pluses in everything... Got fired? - more attention to the family and a chance to find yourself in a different direction. ? - no snoring, no scandals, order in the house, silence and exclusive enjoyment of peace. Do children learn poorly? - Einstein, who received the Nobel Prize, was kicked out of school altogether. Over time, this habit will become stronger and work automatically: before you have time to think, the positive aspects of what is happening are already right there!
- People are worried : your own, loved ones, friends, colleagues ... We must learn to take it for granted: life is such that no one will stay in it forever - everyone is mortal, and everyone’s turn will come in due time. Of course, I would like to come later, but it is written to someone like a family - it does not hurt to be a little fatalist with faith in fate.
- It is not necessary to adjust events and people around us: exhaustion with work and speed of life is the main problem of our century. An exclusive belief in such a necessary resistance to everyone and everything can and is impressive - “You are so strong (strong), no circumstances will break you!”, But the harm from this is much more than good.
Sometimes you have to let go of the circumstances: perhaps some other factor or unexpected turn will arise that will radically change the perception of the situation!
Place of tranquility
This is not about a cemetery - although yes, let's be honest: the most peaceful place on the planet. But while your heart is beating hot in your chest, you should take care of a corner of personal privacy. A cherished place, in which there are no phone calls, a TV with frightening news, sucking the Internet into its bottomless womb - half an hour on the balcony or on a park bench will help put thoughts and feelings in order, curb overwhelmed emotions.
Do not ignore your favorite pastime: no matter what happens in this turbulent world, you can allocate half an hour or an hour for a hobby a day. Knitting, embroidery, modeling, modeling, drawing - whatever, if only at these moments you were comfortable, calm and disconnect your brains from existing problems. The place of study is also important in this case: if the children urgently need help with their homework, the cat needs canned food from the refrigerator, a friend remembered that today you have not dissuaded the allotted two hours on the phone, and your husband slaps lids on empty pans - an idea to spend half an hour in my pleasure failed miserably. Decision? To feed all the hungry, to carry out strict instructions with relatives, and to turn off the phones - any person has the right to a few personal minutes of doing what he loves.
Huge shopping malls are not a place to relax. Bright light, oppressive concrete, glass and crowds of people - there can be no question of any comfort and privacy. Have you often noticed fatigue after hypermarkets and boutiques? - here it is, a signal from the body about a serious loss of vitality. A forest, a river, swimming in a pool, in a nearby park - the healing effect of nature will give a feeling of an influx of strength and energy, allowing both soul and body to fully relax.
Learn to gradually relax and manage your peace of mind, remembering at the same time: do not fight life - you need to live and enjoy life!
January 22, 2014, 18:15We don't know how to deal with stress. For many, relaxation comes down to alcohol, coffee with a cigarette, or extreme hobbies. Meanwhile, there are simple methods to regain peace of mind in just a few minutes.
We remembered as many as 45 ways.
- Take a deep breath one-two-three-four, hold your breath for the same amount, then exhale smoothly.
- Take a pen and write down your thoughts on.
- Recognize that life is difficult.
- Think back to your three most successful experiences in life.
- Tell your loved one what they mean to you.
- Sit down and do nothing.
- Allow yourself to mess around for a while.
- Stare at the clouds for a few minutes.
- Imagine seeing your life from a bird's eye view.
- Defocus your gaze and for a couple of minutes catch everything that happens around you with your peripheral vision.
- Give a small amount for.
- Place yourself mentally inside the transparent bubble that protects you.
- Place your hand on your heart and feel how it beats. It's great.
- Tell yourself that you will remain positive for the rest of the day. No matter what.
- Be grateful that you don't always get what you want.
- Think about how you would live your life if you knew for sure that you would never get rich.
- Let your body do what it wants to do this minute.
- Smell fresh flowers.
- Listen to your voice as if it were your best friend.
- Identify the tightest part of your body. Tighten it as hard as you can for a few seconds, and then relax.
- Go outside and touch something 100% natural. Feel the texture.
- Look around and label each object. Realize how simple these things really are.
- Smile the stupidest smile in the world and imagine what you look like.
- Think of your big problem as if it was your friend's address to you.
- Imagine that your roots extend to the center of the planet.
- Make your own heads with all ten fingers.
- Count from 10 to 1 and listen for echoes after each digit.
- Feel the ground under you with bare feet and become aware of the connection to the ground.
- Stop focusing on other people.
- Decide to say no. Go bolder.
- Write a list of all your problems. Then filter out those that are not dependent on you or are not very important.
- Drink some water. Dehydration is stressful.
- Live within your means.
- Realize the difference between your wants and needs.
- Apologize sincerely to ... Well, you yourself know who you are to blame.
- Think about the vastness of the universe and understand how invisible your troubles are.
- Give up a quick answer to a difficult question and strive for a solution at a deeper level.
- Take some extra time.
- Hear white noise. It's relaxing.
- Write down the best advice you've ever received and apply it.
- Take the dog for a walk. It is possible with a stranger.
- Close your eyes and let the sun warm your eyelids.
- Admit your mistakes.
- Look at other people and understand that they are just like you: with their hopes, dreams, fears and struggles.
- Agree that there will always be someone richer, smarter and stronger.
Which psychological tricks are best for you?
😉 Hello friends! Today we will talk about spiritual harmony, how to find peace of mind. In the daily hustle and bustle of life, each of us often lacks peace of mind, harmony, balance. How to find peace of mind? Follow these guidelines, which are sure to help you calm down and enjoy life.
Peace of mind - absence of stress and anxiety, calm state of consciousness. But the main thing is freedom from negativity. We cannot leave the world with its difficulties and problems. But we can put things in order in our souls and break the chain of evil. Inner peace is closely related to a person's personal space.
How to find peace of mind: seven rules
Thoughts are material
We are what we think about. When a person thinks badly and says bad words, he gets pain. The thoughts must be correct. Think positive and positive. Positive thoughts make life easier, make you happier. A happy person radiates positive energy.
They determine the actions, and they, in turn, determine the subsequent life. Wish something good and it will come true. If you want to become rich, think like a rich person. Save money, but smart.
If you want to be healthy, do not think that something hurts you. Do not complain to family and friends that everything is bad with you. If you think wrong, evil can destroy you from the inside.
Start small
It's okay to start small. A stream emerges from a stream, a trickle from a spring. Drop by drop a deep river appears. None of us are born to be a master of our craft. Everyone comprehends science from scratch. With consistency and patience, you will achieve success in your business.
You won't become a specialist overnight. Successful people are those who can start from scratch and are willing to go all the way through hard work. Grain to grain - and you can get a good harvest.
You need to be able to forgive
Learn to forgive others. You don't have to keep anger in yourself. He will destroy you, you yourself will suffer. Once you can forgive those who have wronged you, it immediately becomes easier. You will not suppress negative emotions in yourself.
The negative inside you should splash out, and this will happen when you are able to forgive and not swallow the insult. Precisely to forgive. Do not look for an excuse for the bad actions of the person who offended you, but forgive him and let him go with his negative actions and thoughts.
Do things that matter to you
Words can mean nothing if not backed up with action. You can endlessly repeat your feelings to your beloved, but not reinforce them with actions. Also at work.
You can read many books, but you never learn the skill until you try what you have learned in practice. Words should be backed up by practice and action. Only those who constantly work on themselves and their skills, improving them, can achieve recognition.
Learn to understand
Understanding the other is a very difficult task. A person does not always understand what he wants. If you try to argue with another without trying to understand his thoughts and feelings, it will be difficult for you to understand yourself. You need to apply all your own skill in order to comprehend the point of view of another person.
If you are furious that you cannot make sense of what your opponent is doing, take a break and do something useful (for example, clean the house). If you can understand others, then you will become calmer and more balanced. A feeling of happiness will come to you.
Concentrate on being happy, and don't try to prove to anyone that you are right. A happy person can only prove and show his innocence by his actions.
Victory over yourself
You need to win over yourself. If you defeat yourself, you will become stronger. Your victory will not be taken away from you. You can control your thoughts and actions without unnecessary emotions. Don't feel like you can't control your thoughts.
Just change your thinking to the one that should correspond to your life positions and dreams. Your consciousness can lead you astray, but you need to win over yourself.
Do not torture yourself, but just love, and you will succeed. Rebuild your thinking and you will become a very strong person that no one can defeat. Be the master of your thoughts and life.
Be harmonious in everything
Harmony must come from within. It is in your heart. The balance within you is the source of your harmony. Inner harmony is your new potential. Improve yourself. Live in the present, because the past can take your positive energy away from you.
You shouldn't forget him, but you shouldn't live only by memories. The future is very uncertain - it's more your fantasies. And your life is the present and the "golden mean" between the past and the future. Balance the past, present and future.
Live in harmony with yourself. If you want to see your main enemy, take a look at your reflection in the mirror. Defeat him, and other enemies will run away by themselves. A harmonious personality is a successful, healthy, purposeful person.
He loves himself and is liked by others. He is capable of self-realization, he is artistic, confident in himself, lives fruitfully in the present and is not afraid of the future. Such a person can always be distinguished in a crowd: he has a bright facial expression, a pleasant voice and a confident gait.
Peace of mind quotes
- Our peace of mind and the joy of being do not depend on where we are, what we have or what position in society we occupy, but solely on our mindset.
- A happy life begins with a calm mind. Cicero
- Calmness is nothing more than proper order in thoughts. Marcus Aurelius
- When you live in harmony with yourself, you can get along with others. Mikhail Mamchich
- The one who owns himself owns the world. Halifax George Savile
- Live in peace. Come spring, and the flowers bloom themselves. Chinese proverb
- Calmness is an important component of success, without it it is impossible to productively think, act and communicate with people. Peace of mind allows the mind to dominate the senses. Anna Duvarova
- Lord, give me peace of mind to accept what I cannot change, give me the courage to change what I can change, and give me the wisdom to distinguish one from the other. F.K.Etinger
- Wisdom comes with the ability to be calm. Just watch and listen. Nothing else is needed. Eckhart Tolle
- The highest degree of human wisdom is the ability to adapt to circumstances and remain calm despite external threats. Daniel Defoe
There was a time when I could not sleep for hours. A random incident, an unfortunate event, a conversation that ended in a different way (as I would like) unsettled me for a long time. Obsession in thoughts and constant digestion of what was, reliably sucked in my attention and deprived me of life energy. The next morning I felt not vigorous and sleepy, but mortally tired and overwhelmed.
I realized that I was simply being in a negative “emotional cocoon” into which, to be completely honest, I immersed myself. In the end, no one made me experience unpleasant and difficult experiences. I did it myself. Albeit unconsciously.
So I started looking for a way out.
A static system is most vulnerable
The main discovery lay on the surface.
We are not so much slaves to our own addictions and habits as slaves to stability. The older we get, the less we want something to really change in life. Especially it didn't change the way we want it. We crave stability and peace. Firmness and immutability. The inviolability of the established order of life. To always be constantly good, blissful and curly.
But it doesn't work that way.
The world around us does not exist according to the laws that we invent for it. The world around us exists according to the laws of dialectics. And dialectics provides for the constancy and invariability of only one thing - conflicts and contradictions.
An attempt to escape from conflict is an attempt to escape reality or escapism. Reality will still impose them on you, but not on yours, but on your own field. I understood on my own skin what it is to be silent, when it is necessary to speak, what it is to push away from problems, when it is necessary to solve them, what it is to sit and blink when it is necessary to act. As a result, sooner or later I lost.
Then I realized that trying to ignore the world around me, staying in my illusions, does not lead to peace of mind, but on the contrary, generates a bunch of situations that lead to discomfort.
I had one acquaintance whose constant dream was that everyone would be left behind. But for some reason all the time it turned out that someone still cared about him. Miracles and nothing more.
Dynamic equilibrium
One of my life teachers was the "Vanka-Vstanka" children's toy. She showed me that there is such a state in which, no matter how life hits you, no matter how pushes you, you will always return to the position you are occupying. In other words, you always maintain your inner balance, despite the continuous changes and external influences.
This state is called dynamic equilibrium.
In practice, this means that nothing, no external event or circumstance is able to unsettle you and knock you off your intended goal. On the contrary, you turn any troubles to your advantage. Have you been severely criticized? Instead of being discouraged, you use the facts you have learned to work intensively on yourself and go to the next level. Got fired? You do not give up and do not complain about fate, but remember your forgotten talents and create a profitable business on them.
But all this is simply a consequence of the fact that you adequately perceive reality and respond flexibly to it. In your head there are no ineffective rules and limiting frames, but there is a holistic perception of the world and the ability to see what is usually hidden from the gaze of other people.
Development strategy
The path to gaining inner peace and mental balance, that is, a state of dynamic balance, is the path of practice. It's ever-increasing personal maturity degree... And this is exactly what the absolute majority of people engaged in "self-development" seek to avoid like fire. Because it is very cool and fun to do something pleasant, comfortable and interesting (for example, meditation or reading books) and think that you are "developing".
And it is very unpleasant to look deep into yourself and realize that you and only you are the only reason for the events taking place in your life - in business, in relationships, in the prevailing circumstances. Realizing this is sometimes very painful and unpleasant. It is so unpleasant that a cunning and resourceful mind begins to invent various "serious and valid" reasons so as not to engage in real work on oneself. In order not to see the true state of affairs.
The husband left the woman. He left for another. He left because he was walking and because it became boring. These reasons are not hidden. They lay on the surface. It was enough to look closely, to compare some facts and signs to see them. And when you see - take appropriate measures. But what happened happened. And she can correct / improve the situation only by realizing the processes due to which she found herself in it.
Instead, a woman runs to fortune-tellers, witches-witches, attends women's trainings, “cleans up karma” and does other easy, pleasant and interesting things. The husband even returns. For a while. But then he gets bored again, and he goes off into the night again in search of adventure. And so it can be repeated for a long time.
Real personal growth cannot be replaced by simulation. No way.
Pull out the root
I stubbornly searched for the root of anxiety, the source of all and all kinds of anxiety, anxiety and excitement. And I couldn't find it. Until I realized that my current personality (and the supervisor who controls it) does not really want to look for him. For this root is an open, impudent and shameless lie to oneself. Believe me, deceiving ourselves by creating illusions and simulacra is one of the most beloved activities of our limited mind.
Can you stop lying to yourself?
But then you will have to face in full the amount of truth about yourself, about people, about life that you did not want, could not and did not want to see. And after that, you won't be able to live as you used to. This is a one way ticket. The choice is serious and not everyone is ready to make it. This is the lot of really strong people. Or those who want to become one.
After that, you will have a completely different life. Outwardly, nothing will change. At least right away. But your perception will become as pure as you want it. You will see the world completely different, completely different from what you see it now. Are you ready to embark on this exciting and challenging journey? Start by sending applications for a free consultation.
I am sure you deserve a better life! Calm, happy and harmonious.
It seems that there is no question older than the one we will try to ask in this article. How can an ordinary person find peace in worldly life?
Provided that modern people are creatures dependent on many factors that unbalance them.
Sometimes we don't have enough time to cook ourselves a normal meal, let alone come to a sense of ourselves.
But do not despair, because the path to tranquility and universal wisdom is available to everyone and is hidden within ourselves.
What is peace of mind and peace?
For most people, the concept of peace of mind is just a utopia, an unattainable goal, a fairy tale that is told to children at night.
It seems to us that the achievement of happiness in this life is possible only through the acquisition of inner harmony, but since this goal cannot be achieved, we find ourselves imprisoned in a vicious circle.
Emotional depression caused by such reasoning is bound to lead to physical health problems.
Depression is the cause of many diseases - this phenomenon is called psychosomatic effect in medicine.
Indeed, nervousness is often the cause of the development of such physical ailments as ulcers, heart failure, vascular dystonia, etc.
Tip: do not belittle the importance of peace of mind in your life. If illness doesn't scare you, think about long-term inner experiences that will not leave you until the very end.
In fact, everyone can find peace in this world.
Moreover, the state of mental equilibrium is the normal state of a person, invested in him at the genetic level.
L yudi are intelligent and balanced beings who have everything they need to arrange their life on this planet in their own image and likeness.
So why is the achievement of such a seemingly simple goal as internal balance considered a utopia in modern realities?
What factors rob us of our peace of mind?
Perhaps, humanity owes all mental problems to progress and its consequences.
The modern world is not complete without many technological solutions, but the payment for them is not so small.
We, as creatures that have existed in harmony with nature for centuries, are adversely affected by the following external factors:
- Industrialization
- Poor environmental situation and ensuing climate change
- Lack of organic food and water
- Overpopulation of the planet
Everyone dreams of finding inner harmonyTip: Did you know that the person is under constant stress due to ambient noise. It can be the noise of cars, lighting devices, trains, etc. All these sounds contradict the human structure, because they do not occur in nature.
In addition to technogenic factors, a person is also influenced by the social norms of modern society.
Humanity has come up with many complex mechanisms of social regulation, but has not found a way to teach us to use them.
A separate article is deserved by the question of the problems of employment and self-determination in the modern world.
We need to earn money to feed ourselves and provide ourselves with housing, but the ways of earning money are often not suitable for our nature.
There are many examples of such internal conflicts - they are generated by the world that we ourselves have invented.
Indeed, even minimal difficulties can darken our lives.
But it is important to remember that everyone has everything you need to protect yourself from difficulties.
Keys to Finding Peace of Mind and Peace
A person is not helpless in the face of all the listed detrimental factors.
Yes, they are unbalanced, but can they change our essence?
It is unlikely, because for the same reason a person will never be able to get used to all the innovations that progress has given him. It is a vicious circle and cannot be broken.
It is important to understand that we have no power to change the current course of things.
That is why it makes no sense to reproach yourself about what is happening around.
As the Dalai Lama once said: “If the problem can be solved, then there is no need to worry about it, if it cannot be solved, then it is useless to worry about it.».
All we do is worry about things beyond our control.
With the same success with which a person is worried about unworthy things, he ignores the really meaningful and valuable in his life.
We are so passionate about our work that we forget about raising our own children. We miss the moment when they are most receptive to what we have to say.
And we begin to worry about them only when we see the vices that have arisen due to our own inattention.
There are plenty of such life examples proving the absurdity of the human character.
In order not to follow the path of most of society, it is worth thinking about the really important things.
And no other method besides meditation can help to cope with this task as best as possible.
Meditation as a way to find inner balance
It is not for nothing that sages consider meditation to be the best method for achieving inner harmony.
This technique is present in many cultures and religions of the Eastern world, but is not very popular when looking at the history of European civilization.
The advancement of modern technology unbalances us, but gives us the opportunity to touch century-old doctrines without leaving the room.
Nothing will work without regular work on your consciousness.The ultimate goal of any meditation is to stop thoughts, as a result of which only silence remains inside the practitioner.
Your mind stops incessant work.
Believe me, not everyone is able to achieve this goal, because the brain is designed in such a way that certain arguments are always heard in it.
But do not despair, because in the case of meditation, the ancient rule works - the final result is not so important as the path you take to it is important.
Therefore, even beginners can try meditation as a method to gain peace of mind and peace.
Most often, meditation is practiced in a certain position.
Advice: meditation should take place in absolute silence. The duration of the session is individual, but it is not less than 15 minutes.
Meditation is possible without asanas.
Consider the simplest version of this technique:
- Sit in a chair.
- Close your eyes and relax.
- Avoid external factors.
- Take a deep breath and exhale. Continue breathing evenly and regularly.
- Try to focus on your own breathing. Other points of concentration can be found if desired.
- An idyll should be happening within you. Thought processes should slow down, giving way to peace of mind.
Speaking about other points of concentration of consciousness during meditation, we also mean any problem that has developed in life.
You can calmly reflect on a way out of a difficult situation, or analyze relationships with loved ones.
“Destroy images, thoughts, whims, fantasies and desires as they rise from the depths to the surface of consciousness. Turn inward the curious mind and confirm it on the Highest. Then the meditation will be deep and intense. Don't open your eyes. Don't get off the seat. Immerse yourself in the very depths of your heart. Now enjoy the silence. ”- Svomi Sivananda.
- Avoid negative information. Remember that unnecessary emotional worries about things that are beyond your control cannot change anything.
- Think positively. You can find positive and negative sides in every event of your life. Learn to pay attention to the highlights.
- Don't lie. A lie for a person is like water for a stone - it destroys him slowly and gradually, depriving him of inner peace.
- Try to stay calm in stressful situations. Japanese samurai believed that a warrior must make important decisions in silence for seven breaths and breaths.
- Face your fears and complexes. The root of any problem that occurs in our life lies in our own consciousness. Do not ignore what lies in its depths.
